Wednesday, December 1, 2010

My goal

My goal with this blog is to help others. I know reading about other people who have gone through similar situations as me helped me alot. I hope hearing my story and how i have been since I lost Zoey helps not just women that are going through it but anyone that knows someone who has had a loss. It seems like so many people have experienced a loss but that not many people talk about it. I know when I first got pregnant I knew a miscarriage could happen but thought I was in the clear at 22 weeks. I know the doctors don't want to scare people but i feel like they should have told me a little more. Especially what pre term labor was and what to look out for.

For Women in the SF bay area i wanted to let you know about a group called H.A.N.D. A couple weeks after we lost Zoey, Mike and i went to a meeting for people who had a loss. It was very helpful to us to get to talk about everything we were going through with people who had been through it. We found out about it from the hospital. They had given us a packet of papers with a bunch of information on loss and in there was a HAND newsletter with stories and stuff. If you are interested their website is They also have a support group for women who are pregnant again after a loss.


  1. You will find out, first hand, that telling your story and discussing your emotions will help someone out in a similar situation. I think it's a great goal :)

  2. Lindi,

    I think Tory has told you a bit of our story. All that we lost and how we managed to come out the other side. This poem by William Blake speaks the world to me as a mother who has lost a child. I hope it speaks to you as well:

    "To see a world in a grain of sand,
    And a heaven in a wild flower,
    Hold infinity in the palm of your hand,
    And eternity in an hour."

    The short amount of time you have that child, whether it's in your body or in your hands, can be eternity...and love lasts an eternity.


  3. Thank you Cat.. i love the poem. Tory has shared with me your story and i think you are such a strong woman..

  4. My hopes and best wishes to both of you. I hope your dreams come true soon! And, yes, keep spreading the story and as you do you will affect people you will never ever meet with hope and understanding. It helps to know that you are not alone.